Tiffany's Favorite (100th Episode Edition) | Ep. 100

• Tiffany celebrates the 100th episode by replaying her favorite episode. Starting next week, the podcast will release twice weekly on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

• Anna Lange joins to discuss the five mental games we play. Tiffany sought her out after hearing her speak at a virtual summit.

• Anna explains these games justify what's happening in our heads and make it true. They can be used negatively to avoid responsibility or positively to see the good in things.

When we play mental games on ourselves, they're games we play to justify whatever's going on in our head and make it true.

• Deletions involve removing pieces of information we don't want to see. Generous attribution means thinking the best of what's being said.

Generous attribution means thinking generously about what's happening or what's being said or what's happening around you.

• Distortions involve tweaking or deliberately misinterpreting information. Anna shares a personal story about a conflict with her daughter that escalated through distortions and deletions.

Wait for the charge. The second you feel a charge, is when the ego is kicking in and the need to be right surfaces.

• Generalizations help us quickly categorize for survival but become problematic when used to avoid deeper thinking. Statements like 'my husband never picks up' disempower others.

• Personalizations involve assuming situations are about you, often reinforcing feelings of unworthiness. This is especially toxic for those who tend to feel victimized.

• Dehumanizations justify treating others differently by removing their humanity. We often dehumanize those closest to us—spouses, children, parents—to justify controlling behavior.

If you truly believed that your six-year-old or your 18-year-old was really and truly worthy, you wouldn't seek to change them.

• Anna recommends Brene Brown's question: 'What is the story I'm telling myself?' This creates awareness and opens space for curiosity rather than rigid belief.